The Battle


Last night, I wrote a poem called “Don’t Blind Me,” and a lot of the questions that I refer to will be answered in this piece. I looked myself in the mirror this morning and said, “No more.”

If I have been taught anything over the past few years, it has been that vulnerability is at the core of courage and light. Therefore, I write one of my demons out on paper, a demon that many I think will be able to relate to, and strip the parasite from my life – for the first time, and for the last.

It all started when I wrecked my knee. The massive tear in my meniscus took me out. I had to have surgery, and since the tear was so severe, my doctor wanted me to take it as easy as possible. He doubled my time on crutches, and limited my walking for months. It was summer. It was hot. I was miserable. The combination of athletes depression, a depression that comes from not getting your daily endorphin fix, and not being able to do anything I wanted to do was killing me. I had to lay in bed pretty much all day, watching episode after episode of Pawn Stars and feeling awful. My knee was in a lot of pain. The pain from the knee was shoot up my leg and into my hip and I would writhe in bed. Sweating because of how hot the summer was and wishing things were not this way.

Eventually, I had the ability to crutch to the gym every single day, my one hour of heaven, and feel better about myself. But this did not help the athletes depression because it was masked by pain. I went back to my room after an hour or so frustrated and eventually found an out. Food. I have always loved food and at this point in time, it was the only thing that could make me feel any better. The feeling I got from eating good food > the feeling of pain and anguish. So I ate. Junk food…good food…and anything else in between.

What is interesting though, is that I have never been in really bad shape or very overweight. The amount I work out combats what I would eat. However, inside, I didn’t feel all too good. I felt like I had this thing inside of me that was holding me back from my dreams. I would try to cut it out, but it would always come back to haunt me. And then I would continue to feel awful about myself because I was being hindered by something that was very much in my control. When I became upset about something, I would run to food. When something would hurt…off I went. This only perpetuated the cycle, a cycle that has continued up until this morning. Enough is enough.


I have been taught that the only way to break habits, overcome misery, or change something in your life is to be vulnerable with it and to also declare what you are going to do. I know there are a lot of people out there who have experienced what I just wrote or who are in the same boat as I am right now, and that’s why I want you to walk with me on this one. Here are my declarations for the next 60 days.

– I declare that I will not touch a shred of junk food or fast food.

– I declare that I will consume only lean meat, fresh veggies, and lots of fruit.

– I declare that I will cut out added salt.

– I declare that I will not consume any soda.

– I declare that I will not eat anything with added sugar.

– I declare, starting Monday February 18, 2013…that I will finish my 60 days of insanity during this time and supplement those workouts with lifting in the gym…not the other way around.

– I declare that I will take the best care of my body I possibly can, and nothing short of it.

So, go out and get it.
~Evan Sanders


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  • roughwighting
    February 16, 2013 at 9:51 am

    We writers must be vulnerable to become GOOD writers. And I think that to be good men and good women, it’s the same. Thanks for sharing your goals. I know you’ll reach them!

    • thebettermanprojects
      February 16, 2013 at 7:17 pm

      Vulnerability. The finest part of life. It sucks, but helps so much.

  • lazylauramaisey
    February 16, 2013 at 9:54 am

    Good luck with all that. Stay strong 🙂

    • thebettermanprojects
      February 16, 2013 at 7:18 pm

      Thank you. You have been a long time reader and seen me go through so much!

  • wherethedaytakesme
    February 16, 2013 at 10:21 am

    Thanks for sharing your vulnerabilities Evan. I haven’t had fast food for almost a year. I feel lots of good.

  • Dorcas Graham
    February 16, 2013 at 10:45 am

    Aggressive, but you can do it!

  • Papizilla
    February 16, 2013 at 11:36 am

    Reblogged this on The Ranting Papizilla and commented:
    Very wise ideas. Check it out people!

  • helenvalentina
    February 16, 2013 at 1:56 pm

    Very inspiring!! 🙂

  • Lead Our Lives
    February 16, 2013 at 5:39 pm

    Your writing, your commitment, your blog has inspired me from the first reading. I’ve nominated you for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award.

  • Julie
    February 16, 2013 at 7:06 pm

    We attach shame to things by creating “no talk rules” so you have removed your biggest obstacle by sharing. The next step is exactly what you are doing,…the practical, problem-solving step. I gave up soft drinks last June and don’t miss them at all. I substituted ice tea and lots of water with slices of lemon and cucumber in it. Four months ago I gave up caffeine completely. Herbal teas have seen me through. Two months ago, I vowed to eat healthy, all-organic meals. I have not been completely successful but eat so much better than I did before. As the saying goes “progress not perfection”

    Thanking for sharing 🙂 Wishing you success and good health!

  • invictusnest
    February 16, 2013 at 8:58 pm

    Reblogged this on invictus nest.

  • amiemlzrt
    February 16, 2013 at 10:46 pm

    hmmm. what a nice attitude .. hope u can do it.. i know u can…good luck and stay healthy always..and thank you for sharing.

  • Charlie Dee -- Waking Up Jacked
    February 17, 2013 at 12:33 am

    Good luck mate. I’m fighting a comparable battle at the moment myself.

  • Ann's Open Door
    February 17, 2013 at 4:52 am

    It’s the hidden things that hold power over us. We bring them out into the light and that shame power begins to dissapate. So good for you. I’m sure you will do well in this also.

  • Jeff
    February 17, 2013 at 4:41 pm

    Les Brown is one of my favorite speakers. I hadn’t heard the “moaning dog” story before, but it’s terrific. Good quote from Steve Prefontaine, too. I think I’ll use it in my own blog. Thanks!

  • Meggie Rodgers
    February 17, 2013 at 7:54 pm

    “vulnerability is at the core of courage and light.” so profound and inspiring. i wish you much success!!

  • gregmercer601
    February 18, 2013 at 2:39 pm

    Good luck! We all need to pick our battles, and you’ve picked yours for now. I wish you well on your quest of sorts for self-improvement and power over your desires.

  • phoebee69
    February 22, 2013 at 7:55 pm

    Reblogged this on Thoughts of a fucked up bitch .