The Better Man Project

Day (373) – To A New Year

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I look back on this past year, and all I can do is smile. I set my goals last year on December 25…and I am proud to say that I achieved over 70% of my bucket list. What did I learn from this process? Well, I learned that daily goals are much much more important than goals that you throw down onto a piece of paper and expect to achieve them over a year. Trust me, I love goal setting, but the importance of living in the present moment is much greater than looking one year in the future. It isn’t gauranteed. Not in the slightest. What also happens is you can fall back on tomorrow…the deadliest sin against your dreams.

My happiest times were those times I was purely in the moment with my greatest of friends. Many of them happened sitting on the roof with Greg or on the porch with Russell just talking. I will take those moments with me in the new year and the lessons I learned along the way.

This next year for me is going to be unbelievable. There are so many things coming, and I am so unbelievably excited about waking up each and every day and seeing what I can create. Through this past year, there were definitely times where I felt paralyzed, but I conquered one of my greatest fears: loved ones leaving. If I am proud of anything…it would be getting over this fear. Different people come and go and they will always mean certain things to you. But we must keep those memories close to our hearts or else we lose the lessons that we were taught by those individuals. The people who go were meant to go…those who stay, were meant to stay. Don’t ask questions past that.

Why? We ask why too often. Why did this happen? Why not this way? Why that way? Why even bother? The list of questions you can attach why to is endless. But the thing is, if you keep asking why and worrying about why something happened…then you focus too much on the past and not enough on this moment. If you also worry about something happening down the line…and why it might happen…you equally take yourself out of this moment. 99% of the time the things you worry about never happen…and 99.9% of the time the things you worry about that happened in the past never happen again. Just the way it works. So start accepting your condition as what it is and go do something about it.

The last thing I learned this year was to dream big. In August I decided to write a book, and we are a couple weeks away of this dream becoming a reality. I never thought I would get to this point…but now I am here…and I can’t tell you how happy I am. My grandmother looked at me last night and said it looked like I was glowing…and the fact that I was always smiling was incredible. But it is true for me…I am almost always smiling. Even when things really hit the fan…I look up to the sky and just laugh in disbelief. And this is the last point I have to make tonight. Tragedy is a blessing…because it either teaches you courage or draws it out from you. Moreover, it will teach you the most important lessons of your life.

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays,

Lets make this New Year incredible,


Evan Sanders

Please Join My Dream



  1. January 2, 2013

    You have a lovely geniune smile

  2. December 31, 2012

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  3. December 29, 2012

    you are really a better man, good project.. like this blog..

  4. December 29, 2012

    you are a really better man….genius, like this blog..

  5. December 28, 2012

    Live life love life smile. Focusing on the right things makes the wrong ones dissapear.

  6. December 27, 2012

    This year I think I might have begun to kick the worrying bug too. Thanks for sharing your journey and for the inspiration. I’m writing a book too and this gives me hope I can and WILL finish it. Good luck for 2013 :-)

  7. December 27, 2012

    Love this. :)

  8. December 27, 2012

    Great reminder- Daily goals!

  9. December 27, 2012

    This post made me smile and feel inspired. I wish you a Happy New Year!

  10. December 26, 2012

    I am truly inspired! You are very right… Tragedy IS a blessing and there are so many gifts that lie beyond our pain. Thank you for your words. Keep smiling!

  11. December 26, 2012

    Time to refill the bucket.

  12. December 26, 2012

    I learned a long time ago to stop asking why–the most useless question in the world…

    Happy New Year to you…

  13. December 26, 2012

    Thank you for the inspiration.

  14. December 26, 2012

    Your posts always make me smile! I’m glad you feel so encouraged by goal-setting. I think that’s so very important in achieving happiness out of life. Keep up the positivity! :)

  15. December 26, 2012

    I look forward to reading your book. Your attitude is awesome in its sincerity and your devotion to be a better man. Cheers.

  16. December 26, 2012

    “Tragedy is a blessing…because it either teaches you courage or draws it out from you. Moreover, it will teach you the most important lessons of your life.” — Super like this.

  17. December 26, 2012

    i still need some of these reminders…about not worrying ( though I’m much better than i used to be) and about being in the present moment. Not always easy. Also “thats just the way it works” a good friend of mine says that often. I need to make that part of my being. Have a blessed new year Evan

  18. December 26, 2012

    Reblogged this on simplykasey and commented:
    I like this post good stuff!!

  19. December 26, 2012

    Kudos! Happy New Year too Mr. Sanders.

  20. December 26, 2012

    Awesome! Just what I need to hear and live!

  21. December 26, 2012

    Hey, this post made me smile. continue on being optimistic and always smiling. :)

  22. December 25, 2012

    Thank you Evan… Merry Christmas and Happy New Year for you too. I am going to smile every day…

  23. December 25, 2012

    i know i know !
    it has been a great year for me too.

    college is almost over , i have a great job and things are looking so bright and shiny.

    I have a great family, they love me so much but now the difference is that i see that and it makes me so happy to know that they are always there for me!

    and my friends, have so many of them and such sweethearts ! things had been so bad between us but everything is great now and it couldn’t get better than this.

    looking forward to the next year… :)

    congratulations to you, your endeavour is different and great …cheers…have a happy 2013!

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