At Your Fingertips


Alright, so I have been thinking a lot lately, mostly because people keep asking me about the book and what it is about. So one of the best questions I was posed was…”If you were on a talk show and you had to describe to the world what the book is….what would you say?” Woooahhh. Tough question right? Okay, so I am going to talk this out as much as possible and come to a conclusion at the end. First, I think I have to tell you where the book starts.

Loss. Most of you guys here have been reading since January…and what is interesting to me is that there are only a handful of people who actually know the story before I started blogging on this platform. There is almost a full year of development that has been missed by most, simply because this was not my starting place for writing. To me, this is actually incredibly exciting that I have something in store for you with the book that you haven’t really seen in the blog. So keep your socks on…so I can knock them off.

Back to the question. What would you say. Well first I would have to say what it is all about. The book is a testament to the blog…in representing a three-year long journey towards becoming a better man and the things I have learned along the way. Further, this journey will never end, because from it I have learned things that have altered the course of my life forever. The importance of Love, Passion, a Never quitting attitude…and above all else, Integrity. I remember the times where I first sat down to blog and it was just me. The 1 view was coming from my roommate in the next room who would help me through the thick and the thin that was going to be the next year or so. So as each life event taught me something really important about my character…I started to build on myself and the wisdom I was gaining from learning about myself, and learning from others.

A very famous philosopher, I think it was either Plato or Socrates, said that the smartest philosopher in the room is the man who realizes that he in fact…knows nothing. Bingo, that is making it into my description of this journey. Because at the beginning, all of the buildings were down. I knew who I wanted to become, but didn’t for a second pretend that I knew how to become it. So, if I ever give a speech…I might walk out on the stage…and say…”Hi, I’m Evan Sanders, I am 23 years old…and I in fact…know nothing. BUT, from nothing, I was able to give my chance, to learn about…everything.” Feel me?

Most of this journey has been shadowed by significant amounts of pain, failure, struggle, you name it. Why? I am pushing my boundaries each and every day. Those words in the previous sentence are the words that I am going to use to describe it to you. However, the way I describe it to myself is “learning opportunities.” Failing is fantastic. Well, failing going 100% is fantastic. IF you fail by half assing it, well what the hell did you expect in the first place? There have been times where I have been so unbelievably discouraged by the amount of times I have failed that I thought about quitting. But when you stand for Never Quitting…it becomes impossible for you to…and you move right through the obstacles.

I know nothing, and therefore, I have the ability to learn about things that other people cannot. But it goes a little bit deeper than that. When you think that something about you is certain, you kind of shut off your ability to morph and adapt. I am not saying that knowing yourself is bad, but I’m saying that if you say you cannot change something about you, then you have just found your weakest link. As Plitt says, “If it can be fixed…or made better…it’s as good as broken.” That’s the damn truth.

This is not a manual for anyone. In fact, you won’t find a chart, equation, numbered list….of things that you need to do in order to be happy. What I have tried to do is tell a story…without actually telling the story. Everyone has gone through tons and tons of situations in their life, but that’s not really the important part. The important part is how you feel and the emotions that are left behind. That is the story that I try to tell. No one’s pain or grief is better than anyone else’s. When you take away the who what when where why…you are just left with the emotions. And the emotions are what people can relate to. So in essence, the book is a story about my journey, one that you can travel along with me…and you can grab your lantern…and dive deep down into the caves of your heart with me.

Sometimes you have to be your own hero. And that will create permanent lasting change. That is what The Better Man Project is about. Stop listening to what other people tell you to do and start looking deep within. You may be surrounded in silence, but that is when you start to hear your own voice for the first time. The thing that makes you tick…and drives you to great things.


Take the journey with me.

Evan Sanders

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  • jmgoyder
    November 16, 2012 at 6:59 pm

    I am new to your blog – hope I can catch up!

  • And Then There Was One
    November 16, 2012 at 7:20 pm

    I wish you the best of luck with The Better Man Project, from what I’ve read so far I think it could really affect the lives of a lot of people.

  • shalinijena
    November 16, 2012 at 9:02 pm

    Ah. I really like your blog and best of luck to you for the better man project. I am sure it will be a rage! 😀

  • Maaher Sayeed
    November 16, 2012 at 10:22 pm


    I am amused and highly impressed to see and read about your progressive development process. I adhere to similar ideas and share your passion in becoming a better man. However, I take it upon myself to inspire others to do the same and share my wisdom, just as you do. Hence my blog and posts continue….

    It is funny how pain or loss instigates many a great things in life. Some turn to faith, some to challenge the situation, some earn their wisdom from it and some succumb to it. But your efforts and wisdom is certainly worth sharing.

    Best of luck with your book. From how I see it, you book is a common mans earned wisdom to inspire a common man to learn from!


  • Scutariu Gheorghiţă Silviu
    November 17, 2012 at 12:48 am

    True words! Thanks!

  • djtoasterbiscuit
    November 17, 2012 at 1:07 am

    I love seeing your posts on my reader reel. Great way to end my day. Such positivity!

  • Anna
    November 17, 2012 at 2:35 am

    You write with deep insight, I like it, and by the looks of it will have indeed a lot to read up on 😉
    I hope you learn from my blog as I think I might from yours.


  • Not So Sex in the City
    November 17, 2012 at 6:12 am

    Hi! I’ve nominated you for the Inspiring Blog Award! Take a peek here:

    I’d love it if you could play along 🙂

  • thetemenosjournal
    November 17, 2012 at 6:21 am

    Beautiful said Mr. Sanders, beautiful said. I Concur .

  • RoboticRAven
    November 17, 2012 at 7:44 am

    I like your blog. It is an interesting concept. And you’re right about pigeonholeing ourselves. It’s easy to think we can’t change because of other people, but it really is because of us, isn’t it? We think we can’t be anything other than what we already are. Good thoughts, and good luck!

  • karmatales
    November 17, 2012 at 4:28 pm


    I can relate so much! And keep finding more and more souls like us. 🙂 Obviously you have done very well expanding yourself to inspire thousands. I can only hope I can do the same. But, I believe, as long as we are following an inner truth, we are all teachers. Take what you need give what you can.
    Thank you for following me in my journey and I look forward to following yours.

    With love and light,
    – Hannah

  • hashimeansbridge
    November 18, 2012 at 7:29 am

    Not that it really matters, but I’m pretty sure it was Socrates.
    I totally agree… when I have a problem I find the more authentic solution is to turn inward, rather than outward.

  • ohshineon
    November 19, 2012 at 8:33 am

    Yes, Socrates (in The Apology, written by Plato) was the one who said “I know what I do not know… I possess human wisdom.” He understood the limits of human wisdom and explicitly stated that he only knew that of which he practiced daily.

    Wonderful philosopher.

    • ohshineon
      November 19, 2012 at 8:34 am

      I’m a political science major, so my professor would be happy to hear that my knowledge of political theory is actually being utilized. 🙂

  • mikx89
    November 20, 2012 at 10:47 pm

    Reblogged this on The Wonderland Diaries.

    September 10, 2013 at 5:44 pm

    I really enjoy this particular blog. It is like a secret place where I always come acreoss something that fascinates and amazes me.

    September 10, 2013 at 5:45 pm

    The great Confucius wrote that you can’t open a book without learning something.
    If you change the word “book” with “post”, this blog functions in the same manner.

    • thebettermanprojects
      September 12, 2013 at 10:27 pm

      Awesome. I love it that you get that much value from the posts

    September 17, 2013 at 5:27 am

    Some posts cause you to chuckle, other posts make you feel
    sad, this particular one made mme think, and that is better than
    any other reaction.