Excerpts

I have been going through and editing and reading all of my posts so that I have a good start when I begin putting together my book. There have been parts where I was impacted by some of the things I said, some things other people have said to me, and some of the quotes I have posted on here. I thought you might enjoy some of these. These are from the first 50 pages…out of a total of 800+ pages I have written. There is lots of sorting to be done! Hope you enjoy.

  • “You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
  • Where am I going with all this? 
Be patient. Be patient with yourself. If you’re not where you want to be, then put in the work to get there, but you have to remember to give yourself a chance.
  • These cards are simply dealt to us and we rarely have any say. But like any poker game, you have the chance to fold or keep playing in life. And for me, playing is always better than quitting.
  • Take this message to heart. Impossible is nothing
  • After blowing out my elbow the first time, endless doctors visits, excruciating physical therapy, and lots of mixed emotions, I gave myself an ultimatum. Give everything you’ve got, give it 100%.
  • Baseball was life. Baseball for me wasn’t just a game. It was living the dream every single day, getting closer and closer to it every time I put my cleats on and felt the crunch of the grass and dirt underneath them. When I touched the mound, I was in heaven.
  • Facing up Kevin Eichorn from Aptos who was drafted to the Diamondbacks, and holding my own while fully inflicted with pneumonia and hacking up a lung on the mound, will be a memory that will always be close to my heart. I was really sick, but I guess I just knew what I had to do and went out and did it. Here’s what I learned that night. If you have 60% in the tank…then give it 100% of that 60%. We lost still, by one run on an error, but that memory of playing Aptos with 8 D1 scholarship players in the lineup will never fade. Lesson 2: never let them see you sweat. If you are feeling nervous, hurting, anything…never let the other team see that in you. Part of being a pitcher is your presence on the mound. Ken Rivissa, one of the wackiest sports psychologists I have ever had the pleasure of knowing, would call it “taking your sh*ts off the mound.” If you are going to sh*t your pants, go walk on the grass somewhere, but leave the mound…which is a sacred place. Once you are ready, get back on that rubber, take a deep breath, and say to yourself “60ft, 6 inches…here it comes Bitch!” Life is really similar to being a pitcher. Sometimes things don’t go your way, you walk a couple of guys, give up a couple of hits, someone makes an error behind you…the question then becomes, “How are you going to react?” When I was  younger I would get rattled, but in my later years…I would just breathe, look out into the outfield somewhere, clear my mind and focus on the next batter. My dad still calls me “The Ice Man” for being cool as ice.
  • I know that like with all things in life, if I give it my best shot, I can hold my head up and look myself in the mirror every day and not be ashamed.
  • “God only gives us as much as we can handle.” I sit in silence not because I am filled with hate, but because I am learning to forgive, and beginning to heal.
  • It ended before I wanted it to, but maybe it wasn’t really saying goodbye, but just saving Hello for another time.
  • Loved ones don’t get mad at you for making mistakes, they get mad because you fail to be the best person you possibly can be. Integrity is a fundamental, unbendable and an absolutely concrete rule that I attempt to live by.
  • Take a deep breath and apologize. I am becoming the man I want to be, one deep breath at a time.
  • I assure you, once you think you are perfect, you are lost.
  • I don’t want to have lived my life, and not have branded my love on people. Its something that I stand for. No matter what happens, I want people to know that I loved them and I cared about them. Everything could fall apart for me, but the people I love will still know I do. Fact. Considering all that I have been through, I am starting to make that journey.
  • 
“Just ask him how he did it; he’ll say pull up a seat
It’ll only take a minute, to tell you everything
Be a best friend, tell the truth, and overuse I Love You
Go to work, do your best, don’t outsmart your common since
Never let your prayin’ knees get lazy
And love like crazy”
  • But if it’s in you  to put in the blood, sweat, and tears, then go get it.
  • Most of all, what I stand for is going to drive my life every day. I will never falter. There’s a reason for everything, but there’s never an excuse for swaying from the things you hold most dearly. I am going to make more mistakes in my life, I know that to be certain. I am going to feel pain, happiness, love, and every other emotion in the book. But unlike myself in the past, I am now fueled by love rather than…well, whatever the hell I was fueled by before.
  • So that was a setback. But I kept my mantra in mind. The brick walls are there for a reason. They’re not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something.” He then goes on to say…”sometimes, the most impenetrable brick walls are made of flesh.”
  • God gave you shoes to fit you So put ‘em on and wear ‘emBe yourself man, be proud of who you are Even if it sounds corny Don’t ever let anyone tell you you ain’t beautiful
  • I feel like a florescent light bulb right now. I have flicked the switch back on…but its going to take time for that light to warm up. I can tell you though, when that light finally does come to full force…I am going to become the brightest light bulb you have seen.
  • “Nothing Gold Can Stay.”
Nature’s first green is gold, Herr hardest hue to hold. Her early leafs a flower; But only so an hour. Then leaf subsides to leaf. So Eden Sank to grief, so dawn goes down to day. Nothing-gold can stay.
I sat there stunned and didn’t say anything for a few minutes. That poem hit me like a truck. I see things pretty well now. What Frost is saying is that change is going to happen whether we like it or not. We must remember that the sun always will go down at the end of the day. Sometimes in our lives we try to stop the sun from going away for as long as possible. But the darkness always comes. However, never to forget, that the sun will shine again.
  •  “Discipline is doing what you don’t want to do when you don’t want to do it.”
  • Our lives are nothing more than the expression of our current conscious thoughts. My mind is going to be rigorously focused and disciplined on what I want in life rather than what I fear in life. In the past, I have thought a lot about what I fear. I fear being alone, failing at school, injuring myself, losing loved ones, the list goes on and on. But you can’t live your life fearing what could happen, because you will let yourself down, and most likely the things you fear most will come true. Also, you can’t live your life dwelling on what has happened in the past. If you want something bad enough, you will do what you have to do to get there, no matter how hard it is. I know exactly what I want, and that doesn’t have a timetable yet, but I will work as hard as I can to make that happen, even if I am blind to the amount of time it takes. Committed? Oh you have no idea.
  • The things I am thinking about, consuming my mind with, and developing myself into are really starting to come out in how I react and act. For the past few days, you couldn’t smack the smile off my face.
  • But what my grandmother’s best friend told me was this. She sat me down and talked to me about my relationships and the people I had seen or was seeing, and she said, “Evan, your grandmother and your grandfather loved each other very much. Your grandfather had to go out west and your grandmother decided to stay in the east and thought that this was the end for them. She thought that it would be fine and she would find another person eventually. But she couldn’t do it. She couldn’t be without him. And moved everything she had out west, started a family, and lived a very happy life. And you know what she told me when I asked her why she did it? Evan she said ‘You know its great when you can’t live without the other person.’” Sitting in the car this morning that hit me really hard. Things haven’t been easy lately. They aren’t easy at all actually. My grandmother was a very wise woman, and I can see what she is saying. You know, its really easy for people to not express their feelings about what is going on in their lives because they are afraid of judgment, criticism, and most of all, fear of being vulnerable.
  •  I have said it before, my writing isn’t about holding back or fearing, but it is about growing, and living. I cannot live in fear of what will happen, what might happen, or if something in the past will happen again. Fear consumes your emotions. All I know is that the best way for me to combat my fears is to make them known, mostly to myself. I am tired of the stigma that men aren’t supposed to show emotion, that the tough guy is what you should be
  • Hemingway once said “All people talk of it, but those who have had it are marked by it.”
  • Since the beginning, I have not thought of anyone else, looked at anyone else, dreamed of anyone else, and this is how I know what its worth to me. This man, writing to you right now, is blind to anyone else.
  • “Ev, you have the chance to really work on yourself and make yourself an amazing person.”
  • There is something peaceful about laying down in your bed at the end of the night and talking to him and thanking him for everything, even though some of the things that are going on in your life aren’t exactly what you want. But I do thank him for them, because while I walk around blindly and humbly, and cannot see his exact plan, I can see clearly the test. We aren’t supposed to understand why things happen to us until much later in life, when we can see the way things have unfolded and really come to terms with things. Life is a surprise, don’t sneak around the back door and blow the party.
  • “When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” – Laozi.
  • What ends up happening is when we take the easy road, we protect ourselves from failing, from hurting, from being insecure. But when we take the road less traveled by, we subject ourselves to all of life’s unknowns. One of the quotes on my status today was “Living at risk is jumping off the cliff and building your wings on the way down.” – Ray Bradbury.
  • Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, And sorry I could not travel both And be one traveler, long I stood And looked down one as far as I could To where it bent in the undergrowth; Then took the other, as just as fair, And having perhaps the better claim, Because it was grassy and wanted wear; Though as for that the passing there Had worn them really about the same, 
And both that morning equally layIn leaves no step had trodden black. OH, I kept the first for another day! Yet knowing how way leads on to way, I doubted if I should ever come back.  I shall be telling this with a sigh somewhere ages and ages hence: Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference. 
  • I am trusting in the path again. My faith guides me, and I am fully willing to let it. The past couple weeks I have been questioning everything, but that’s okay. I understand that the pain was just part of the process. If I didn’t feel any pain, then I know I didn’t care. But now here I am, painless, smiling while I write this, looking forward to tomorrow, and laughing about how much I lived today.
  • I think a lot about courage. In fact, I have thought about courage since I was little. I would always imagine scenarios where I would have to do something courageous and come through. I would play these parts out with my dog in the yard, saving her from something or protecting her from some monster. She had no idea what I was doing but she sure as hell loved to lick my face after I saved her. I think about her almost every day. For me, looking back on it now, it took courage to let her go. We tried to keep her alive for as long as we possibly could, but I could only see the pain in here eyes because she wasn’t the dog she used to be. One day, I will have another dog just like her, and will go to the ends of the world to make it happen. For right now, I know she walks beside me every day, looking up ready for our next journey
  • We all stray from ourselves at some point or another, but if our moral compass is pointed in the right direction, we will all get there.

Evan Sanders

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  • thoughtsontheatre
    July 18, 2012 at 11:06 am

    Absolutely loved this sentiment: “Nothing Gold Can Stay.”
Nature’s first green is gold, Herr hardest hue to hold. Her early leafs a flower; But only so an hour. Then leaf subsides to leaf. So Eden Sank to grief, so dawn goes down to day. Nothing-gold can stay.
I sat there stunned and didn’t say anything for a few minutes. That poem hit me like a truck. I see things pretty well now. What Frost is saying is that change is going to happen whether we like it or not. We must remember that the sun always will go down at the end of the day. Sometimes in our lives we try to stop the sun from going away for as long as possible. But the darkness always comes. However, never to forget, that the sun will shine again.

    Undeniable, illuminating, and oh so true.

    • thebettermanprojects
      July 18, 2012 at 4:22 pm

      my best friend recited that to me word for word in the car. hit me like a…car 😀

  • dpress211
    July 18, 2012 at 1:27 pm

    I would like to share this with my clients. You describe the essence of real adulthood in it;s simplest form. Awesome writing!

  • jelillie
    July 19, 2012 at 9:51 am

    “God gave you shoes to fit you So put ‘em on and wear ‘emBe yourself man, be proud of who you are Even if it sounds corny Don’t ever let anyone tell you you ain’t beautiful.” Love that quote!

  • Aurora HSP
    July 19, 2012 at 12:20 pm

    Reblogged this on AURORA MOREALIST ©2011 ~ Writer and commented:
    Great share, had to share in kind 🙂

  • andy1076
    July 19, 2012 at 1:32 pm

    Great message and lesson! thank you for this 🙂

  • fgassette
    July 19, 2012 at 2:21 pm

    A great post on life’s lessons. Looking forward to read more. Keep going.

    BE ENCOURAGED! BE BLESSED!

  • Wendell A. Brown, aka. The Brown One Poet
    July 19, 2012 at 2:33 pm

    It is such a wonderful message about growth, confidence and determination! I had to read it twice…its just beautiful, i am glad that you shared it…it made my day, thanks Janice!

  • handstitch
    July 24, 2012 at 12:35 am

    Gonna print this out so I may read it over and over before driving the kids around. Thanks for sharing!

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