Nice Guys…Finish First

Piggybacking off of yesterdays post, I titled todays “Nice Guys…Finish First.” Let me break this down for you because I think this is going against the grain of the usual “Nice guys finish last” nonsense.

How in the world did this nice guys finish last even start? Well, I think it started with a bunch of nice guys complaining about how all the jerks out there seem to get the hot good-looking girls. Lets think about that for a second…from a couple points of views. Jerks get girls: okay, so, we have this guy…and he’se a total jerk. Now, this jerk acts like a bum, treats women like junk, and has a 98% chance of living somewhere in the dumps in the near future and not doing something with his life because everyone found out…”wow he’se a jerk.” So throughout high school and college this may be something that gets women…but once the girls start figuring out that “hey being treated like crap really isn’t that fun” they no longer look for the jerks, they look for the nice guy. Okay, now lets look at it from the point of the “beautiful girls only like jerks” nonsense. Do you really want to date someone who loves being treated like crap? Lets say you do, and she likes to be treated like crap. You are going to do things and bring yourself so much farther down than where you were that you are going to be absolutely disgusted with your actions and the way you treat women. Further, you are going to start treating everyone like crap and no one is going to like you. THEN, you are still going to dump her or get dumped because you are suck a jerk. To me, this doesn’t seem much like a life worth living for. Get this nonsensical society built junk out of your head that you have to be slightly mean to get girls. There are millions of really attractive, amazing, girls out there who would die to have a good guy in their life.

So what does this come down to…to all those nice guys out there…develop endurance. Keep working on yourself as much as you can to be the best person you can be. Then, one day, some girl who is going to appreciate you for who you are and who you are becoming every single day will have her father tell her this..

You will be the guy who sweeps her off her feet and be that lightning. So to all those gentlemen out there who are looking for the woman of your dreams…she will show up…but you have to be patient for all those jerks to weed themselves out of the playing field. Nice guys finish first…at least the ones who can keep running for a few miles 🙂


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  • Bobolouli
    March 16, 2012 at 10:17 am

    This is a topic that I think men and women could discuss for hours on end. Yes we want gentlemen! Just like the fellas want their ladies to be ladies. Now with the bad boy/bad girl approach, there aint nothing wrong with some naughtiness behind closed doors, but anything that inflicts intentional pain, be it verbal, physical,emotional or psychological then thats where I throw in the towel. No partner needs someone bringing them down. If you are involved in such a relationship, love yourself enough to say, I deserve better than this, and have enough pride to know the world will not end if you walk out on such pain.

  • Drew
    March 16, 2012 at 10:35 am

    This article’s timing is impeccable; this article is the third article in the past two days addressing the “nice guys finish last” paradigm. Great words here and good luck brutha!

  • Spinster
    March 16, 2012 at 11:07 am

    Good stuff. Gonna share on Facebook.

  • Maggie L R
    March 16, 2012 at 11:26 am

    Women do love to be treated nicely. I love guys who are thoughtful and respect who I am. I do not need every door opened for me, but it is nice once in a while. nice guys do finish first in my book. Nice trumps good looks every time.

  • evea192
    March 16, 2012 at 12:35 pm

    Good post.

  • Belles Food Exposed
    March 16, 2012 at 1:23 pm

    Good read! Its true nice guys do finish first as long as they remain the nice guy! I dated the jerk and very much disliked being treated like crap. He would show up late, or cancel at the last minute. It got old and I knew I was worth more, I think its sad when someone (male or female)feels they are not worth more. No one should be made to feel less than or stoop to acting less than! I totally agree with you. I am fortunate that I married one of the nice guys. So guys dont become a jerk for the sake of getting the girl, you will only find you dont want that girl and in the mean time the girl you do want will pass you by cause she is not looking for a jerk .

  • Pink Ninjabi
    March 16, 2012 at 4:33 pm

    totally awesome.. and I think this goes all to the women as well as for us it seems that nice guys only go for ‘b*tchy’ girls. That was definitely the case in high school. I don’t think it’s true later on in life as nice girls finish first too… I hope.


  • Vikki (The View Outside)
    March 17, 2012 at 12:48 am

    Awwwww….lovely post 🙂


  • handstitch
    March 17, 2012 at 6:19 am

    Ditto Bobolouli’s sentiment. I love to be pampered, listened to, loved, and respected. It goes both way.

  • anotherboomerblog
    March 17, 2012 at 10:49 am

    And, just out of curiosity, what about the nice gals who are not “hot, good-looking girls” but are genuinely wonderful human beings? It seems that the “nice guys” who only want gals who look like models are missing the point as well.

    • thebettermanprojects
      March 17, 2012 at 11:53 am

      You are right on the spot with that! For my audience’s sake, I decided not to extend the paragraphs toooo long 😀

    • Chad the Velociraptor
      March 18, 2012 at 8:06 pm

      Hi anotherboomerblog! Just to answer the question, nice gals are attractive — period. I think it’s not a matter of appearance if we’re talking about love when we use “getting the girl/guy.” Also, I think nice guys have more sense than just looking at faces, legs, and other body parts. Anyway, a pretty girl will only be attractive as long as her beauty is in tact. While I don’t want to be a hypocrite — a good looking girl with a good head on her shoulders is an ideal — love disregards appearance. If “nice guys” just looked at beauty, I wouldn’t really call them “nice guys.”

  • finally_write
    March 18, 2012 at 9:56 am

    Good post. So many good messages in that movie too, btw.

    For a little twist on your line of thought, consider this:

    When he tells his daughter that he wishes she would feel that excitement, that obsession for another, he pads it with that all important second part, which is that ‘he’ feel it too. This is the part that trips a person up (both men and women, I think)… you experience that excitement/obsession like you never have before, but you’ve connected with someone who does not have that same excitement/obsession. That’s where all the heartache happens. Very unusual to get that swept away, and if you do, God help you if it isn’t with the right person.

  • stephenedwards425
    March 19, 2012 at 6:49 am

    So many people have written well thought out comments, that I hesitate to write, because I am not sure I have anything to add. However, I loved this post. Please continue to keep your voice pure and honest…it is excitingly refreshing.

    Be encouraged.

    • thebettermanprojects
      March 19, 2012 at 9:01 am

      your comment is equally as important. “all you have to do is write one true sentence. write the truest sentence that you know.” – hemingway

  • Kevin Bridge
    March 21, 2012 at 2:40 pm

    As a high schooler I know what you are talking about. For years I have been a nice guy to everyone and always got the cold shoulder from people. Your blog provides knowledge that every man should know and practice like being a gentleman and taking responsibility for your actions.

  • dorothymcdonall
    March 22, 2012 at 6:23 pm

    Great post! Nice guys do finish first. Just ask mine .. 😉

  • creativeboys
    April 10, 2012 at 9:35 am

    I am always nice to everyone I am with and its rewarding to see each of them smile and yea nice guys finish first but well I guess everyone does if they have good intentions in their hearts 🙂