In the Zone

I woke up today refreshed and ready to go. Immediately got onto my mat and started doing ab work. I am determined…29 more days to go. Yesterday was a perfect day in terms of diet. So, today, I am going to write about bouncing back from adversity and tearing off all the chains that still might be holding you down. Sometimes you need to sleep on it and everything disappears. It doesn’t disappear because it didn’t happen, it disappears because you have a greater plan then sitting around worrying. I haven’t worried about anything in over a month. I don’t worry about things because I know they will turn out if I train and prepare like a champion. If I give it everything I had, then there is no reason to be nervous or worried. If it doesn’t happen, it doesn’t happen.

Don’t waste your time on things that don’t matter. Also, don’t waste your time on things that are not going to take you one step closer to your goals. I saw this great picture the other day that was talking about bodybuilding, and the quote went something along the lines of life is not about luck, because if we are focusing on our goals, every action is merely a step towards the end result. I believe this. I believe that the only reps in life you don’t grow from are the ones you don’t do. I also believe in having class. If things don’t go your way or you are completely blindsided by someone, just leave with pride and class. Men. This is a huge part for us. There are a lot of us out there that have a lack of self control with our temper. If you get dumped, yelled at, or anything, leave with class. I am going to put out an example I use a lot with my friends. Its pretty simple. “You liked her enough to ask her out like a gentlemen, now leave like one.”

You can’t control what other people do. You can only control yourself. So STOP LETTING LIFE HAPPEN TO YOU. Bruce Lee has an amazing speech where he tells you to be like water. Whatever situation you are in, you can adapt like water. Be like water my friend. I am becoming the person I would like to meet on a bench somewhere. I am living my dreams right now in this moment. I have this constant lightheaded feeling because I am realizing my dreams. There are many moments in the day where I go “Wow, this is what it feels like.” I always have to remind myself though, the bigger the game you play, the bigger the problems you are going to have. This is just reality. I have been playing a big game lately, and the problems have started to show up. I am not shying away from these though. I am currently icing my knee because I am working it hard. I know the difference between pain and soreness, and I am still in the good category now. The only problem is that it fills up with fluid after hard workouts. Hopefully I can find a way to attack that problem.

Lists have become increasingly important to me during this time. I write out the problem a the top of the page and make a list of all the potential ways to solve it. When you start getting to option 20 and 21…things get pretty creative. You better believe if I have a major issue in my life that I have some time to think about…there is a list attached to it. Today is a no screw around day. I am clearing house. Taking out the dead wood, bring in new chords of wood that are ready to be set aflame. Watch out, man on a mission today.

And one last request, if you could please like the Facebook page by clicking this link that would be amazing :)   (

Evan Sanders

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  • Misty
    February 7, 2012 at 8:23 am


  • judithatwood
    February 7, 2012 at 8:37 am

    Hi, Evan. I said this a couple of weeks ago, and I have to say it again. I understand why you use the fitness info and sports analogies. But I must say that at times, I read here that if I’m not that person, or if I choose to let life come to me every day, because I fought it for so long, that I shouldn’t be reading your blog. I like your enthusiasm and your writing and your successes, but I’m afraid I just am not in the same place you are, and I choose not to be there. Please let me know, if you think of it, if any of this changes. I know this is YOUR blog, so I’ll leave you to it, with regrets. Judith

  • jannath11
    February 7, 2012 at 9:38 am

    great advice!!!!

    love it.

    thanks so much for the follow.

  • thomag1
    February 7, 2012 at 9:58 am

    Nice post, Evan! Great points with which to motivate

  • B. in the Know
    February 7, 2012 at 10:03 am

    Such a good reminder to not settle!
    Much love,

  • worldlyobsession
    February 7, 2012 at 10:48 am

    Really motivational.. I love the “Be The Type of Person You Want to Meet” quote, I think many times people get lost and forget who they should strive to be.

  • gloriastartover
    February 7, 2012 at 3:00 pm

    Awesome. I quoted you on my blog. Hope that’s okay. Love the graphics.

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  • Bella Remy Photography
    February 7, 2012 at 3:28 pm

    Thanks for your words today. I needed the motivation to get focused on my Inca Trail training program. Only 3 months left!

  • Chrystal
    February 7, 2012 at 4:31 pm

    This was absolutely fantastic! Love this!!! 🙂

  • seesarahsweat
    February 7, 2012 at 6:39 pm

    Very motivational! Also loving the Jay-Z and Kanye. 😀

  • tebfan
    February 8, 2012 at 7:33 am

    “Be like water my friend.”
    one of numerous quotes that is so simple but powerful.
    btw this is an interesting blog, i like its purpose

  • Chris
    February 8, 2012 at 2:13 pm

    This is awesome. Constantly remembering this easier and easier on the daily.

    Day (140): brilliance.

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