The Big Decision

As I tested out some soup last night to see how my stomach would take it after fasting for 7 days, I looked at the empty bowl and made a big decision…continue this great fast. Let me tell you the results. 7 days…11 pounds gone. Not only is it the weight, but I feel healthier, look better than I have looked in a long time, and carry around a bowling ball less of weight than I did before. I have less pressure on my knees (which feel amazing) and I am just overall experiencing this feeling of clarity. Things really seem to be clear to me on what I have to do. I have also been thinking more creatively and am much more driven to act upon those ideas. So, while I started to have some big food cravings after last nights stint at work (which I still held strong through) I am making the executive decision to do another week and keep the fast going. I am also adding cardio in the morning to this weeks training because I pulled something in my shoulder and I am not sure if it is going to be okay for me to lift on heavily this week. Overall I could not ask for more. Fasting, while deemed crazy by society, is an amazing way to get yourself healthy both mentally and physically. Every single vegetable drink you pound, you are chipping away at your body and creating a chiseled sculpture. It is an amazing experience.

What has been going through my head recently? I have been having large bursts of energy and willingness to take on tasks that I know are going to drain me. In fact, I went to bed at 10:30 last night just so I could wake up early and really get after it today. I have a lot of things to accomplish and I am looking to really crush it today. What has really been on my mind is that I really might have an opportunity to write for a few mens magazines. I can tell you that I would love nothing more for the chance to do that and put this project out there. Not for any bragging rights, but from the feedback I have received from everyone who writes on here, I truly believe that it is making a difference in other people’s lives. That for me is worth everything. There is nothing more satisfying that putting out heartfelt content and people writing you back with heartfelt responses. It gives me the ability to work harder, write more, and really put forward some memories and lessons that I have learned so far.

My grandfather died when I was in my late teens and I can’t tell you how big of an impact that had on me personally. He was an unbelievable man and had the largest antique collection I have ever seen. We counted once that there were 40 different chairs in his apartment along with sets of famous keys used around the world. One of the keys was from the Tower of London. How cool is that? But I will always remember a lesson he taught me when I was really young. I have carried this lesson word for word with me along the way and is one of the primary core principles of my character. His advice was very short, but it was unbelievably memorable. He said to me, “Evan, you protect the women in your life. And if anyone hurts a woman in your life, you make sure they know to never do that again.” As you could imagine at a young age I really didn’t know what he was talking about, but as I grew older I came to see the reality of life. Men treat women badly a lot. I am not saying that there is no reverse to this equation, but I am speaking from what I know and have seen. This is not okay. I could never imagine even harming someone physically I loved. I accidentally kicked my girlfriend in the back of the head the other week when we were wrestling and her pain almost ripped a hole in my heart.  For me though, this topic all comes down to a lack of accountability. Men think they can get away with doing whatever they want, and in most cases they do. The good southern blood in me knows that I will absolutely go to battle if someone hurts a woman in my life. That goes for friends, family, and relationships. I will throw on the armor. I loved the movie The Punisher because it was a story about making people accountable for their actions. Yeah there may have been a little bit of guns and explosions, but the message is still the same. People get away with murder these days…literally. This is not okay.

Men, if you are reading this, treat the women in your life with absolute care and love. Showing your emotions and expressing your feelings does not make you weak…it makes you more of a man. You have all the time in the world to go lift, get strong, and be a testosterone filled piece of meat, but you also have to stay balanced. Society wants you to be an absolute brick head with a hard body and listen to what other people tell you to do. But the most successful people in the world do not take this route. Warren Buffet was asked what was the best piece of advice he had ever been given, and he said that his father told him to love people unconditionally. Not to step on others, to ruin relationships around him with people he cared about so he could succeed, but to love and care. I believe that this is the way to do things. I believe that if you put your heart in soul into what you do and give it your absolute best, you will accomplish great things. Chips will fall where they may, but you will have learned an amazing lesson: passion is purpose.



Evan Sanders

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  • wherethedaytakesme
    January 29, 2012 at 8:27 am

    Great post, keep on keeping with your fast, God has it all.

  • Misty
    January 29, 2012 at 9:05 am

    Perfectly written! What an amazing journey you are on, I hope more men follow. Thank you for doing what your doing!

  • alphawriter
    January 29, 2012 at 9:24 am

    Love it! Keep doing the thing and keep us posted with what you do. The natural bursts of energy are great aren’t they? Peace to you

  • stressmanagement
    January 29, 2012 at 10:47 am

    You are doing everyone who reads your blog a great service. This is your gift. I have been physically abused, beat up, and had an attempted rape.
    No one deserves this. I am not a punching bag.

    In the end, I left and my life is beautiful now. I kept my head up and prayed and tried to make wiser decisions. My husband of 24 years is the nicest man I’ve ever met. Nice is underated! It’s also very sexy. He told me he would “never raise his voice to me, never raise his hand, and never let me down.” He’s kept his promise.

    Keep writing we all need your thoughts penned! God bless you.

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  • thomag1
    January 29, 2012 at 12:07 pm

    This is really a nice post, Evan. Many a man must take notice because what you say, throughout, is really true and good to know. tom

  • GrowthLines...
    January 29, 2012 at 7:57 pm

    Thank you for standing up for women in our culture, and for sharing Warren Buffet’s cherished advice.

  • Adam
    January 29, 2012 at 10:46 pm

    I praise every word you said my man. There must be a balance between strength and sensitivity in all relationships. Compassion and vulnerability is the way to opening your heart and creating lasting, worth while relationships that will help in our every ending quest for self-realization. In my opinion, that is happiness. Know who you are and treat people right.

  • livedlovedlost
    January 29, 2012 at 11:34 pm

    This is phenomenal. So motivating. It’s encouraging to see that men still think this way! Good luck with continuing your fast 🙂

  • judithatwood
    January 30, 2012 at 6:29 am

    How refreshingly wonderful. You are indeed a better man. I know many men feel as you do, but rarely do they speak that truth out loud. Thank you for helping to reinforce in me the knowledge that there are truly good men in the world.

  • Jenn
    January 30, 2012 at 12:28 pm

    I’ve been browsing about reading a little this and that on your blog. Thank you for following my blog. I’m behind in working on the WP notifications but I am working on it! As I mentioned, I’ve been reading bits and pieces – enjoy your life-stories that you share. I smiled over the kindergarten kiss that resulted in a rosebush shove. And, other things you’ve written. Got some great nuggets of wisdom tucked in here and there. Didn’t get to the point where you started this fast. That’s something else. I’ve always said they won’t have to embalm those of us who have grown up with preservatives in our food. We’ll already be preserved!

  • LunaSunshine
    February 1, 2012 at 7:10 am

    You know, this is looking better and better everyday. Would you point me in the right direction on how to do this myself?

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