Another Story


When I was in kindergarten, there was this girl I had a crush on. I knew she liked me because she used to chase me around the playground with all of the other girls. We used to play kickball (whatever happened to this sport anyways) and of course, as you could imagine, kindergarten romance involved koodies and lots of teasing the other side. Well, I remember one day we were sitting down outside of class against the wall for our parents to come and all of the sudden…she kissed me on the cheek. WOah! Well, two days later, she pushed me into a rose bush that was the king of all rose bushes. I actually fell completely into this thing and was sitting in it in pure pain. After pulling myself out, I had to go home because my cuts and scrapes were so bad. Now this is not a story about romance…(although I found out at a very young age how confusing girls can be sometimes haha) it is a story about the good coming with the bad. Yesterday I wrote about leading a life that is absent of arrogance, but I realized I learned the lesson of not gloating for too long at a young age. There are things in life that are going to make you incredibly happy, but if you try to hold onto them too tight, eventually you will get pushed into a rosebush.

This is a great story not because I got pushed into a rosebush (which is pretty funny actually), but because of the lesson I learned in that. I believe that our memories are there because there is a strong personal connection with the event. Anyways, I thought you might enjoy that. If there is something I have truly learned over the past year…it has been accountability. Accountability for the things I said I was going to do, for the way I want to act, and for my dreams. It is one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself; the ability to follow through and act upon what you said you would. Believe me, there are plenty of examples of false promises in the world, just take a look at politicians. They make their livelihood on false promises and them blame it on the other party. That is probably the most you will ever hear my talk about politics ever. There are some moments when I hear politicians talk and just go…are you kidding me right now? Anyways, in a world full of silver linings and golden parachutes in which we award people for poor performance and give trophies to everyone even if they lost, I stand as a pretty firm Social Darwinist. I do believe that everyone has a chance to do something great with their life. I also do believe that people can turn things around (there are special circumstances). I also believe that willpower is the only thing you need to change. Once you want it enough, you can do it. That is where the magic is…inside of you…not from anyone else.

I know I started a page about favorite quotes, but I am starting another one about best pieces of advice people have ever been given. I am really excited to hear what you have to say, so please head on over there and take a couple minutes to write down the best piece of advice you have for everyone. Thanks everyone for participating, you guys rock.








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  • laughingpromises
    January 16, 2012 at 3:31 pm

    I want to note that guys can be just as confusing. There was a boy that absolutely TORMENTED me in primary school, and my parents kept saying that he adored me. I didn’t believe them. He was mean. I later found out they were right (and don’t you hate that sometimes?)

  • cruz2lose
    January 16, 2012 at 7:46 pm

    After the rose bush trauma, how does Valentine’s Day work out for you?
    ; )

    Another great story, thanks for sharing!


  • Vic Rana
    January 16, 2012 at 8:24 pm

    Good story Evan.

    The incident of a kiss and getting thrown into the rosebush later reminds me of some philosophical Truth i.e. Duality of this Material World. There’s bound to be Happiness and Distress.

    We must be level headed in all circumstances…:-)



  • GrowthLines...
    January 16, 2012 at 9:42 pm

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    • thebettermanprojects
      January 16, 2012 at 10:03 pm

      I am completely honored to have received this award and am incredibly excited about it! I would love to talk to you more personally. Do you have a place where I could reach you at? My email address is

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    January 16, 2012 at 10:19 pm

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  • alaynajanae
    January 16, 2012 at 10:54 pm

    I felt deeply convicted after reading this…which is often a sign of something good and redeeming in a situation that isn’t otherwise. Thanks for that little wake up call. enjoyed this post. 🙂

  • Jamie
    January 17, 2012 at 3:28 am

    I just began following your postings and I must tell you that I very much appreciate your words, wisdoms, knowledge and the fact that you are sharing them here for everyone to hear. I’m definitely looking forward to reading more. Have a great day 🙂

  • Alex Autin
    January 17, 2012 at 6:19 am

    Great story! It reminded me of the boy in third grade who handed me a bag containing 2 caterpillars…not the cute caterpillars, but the stinging Buck Moth caterpillars…and then he ran off. I wonder what he was trying to tell me…..

    : )

  • mystorymyperspective
    January 17, 2012 at 10:12 am

    Great story and powerful message. You are so right about holding onto something or someone too tight, we all should have less fear and more faith, including myself.

    Some advise that I can recall…just simple advice that comes to mind…I am sure I have heard plenty but the first one is “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”..simple but yet so true…we at times get sucked into this selfish vortex of life and fail to realize the simplicity of life and how we as a society can make situations more complex then necessary.

    This one I use to tell my children all the time! Two wrongs don’t make a right..again simplicity and less selfishness. I could go on and on but I will stop here.

    Thank you again for sharing your thoughts 🙂

  • Aurora, HSP
    January 17, 2012 at 10:41 am

    Loving this, it is so sweetly powerful. A message for pure communication well articulated. Ah, humans, we learn as we “grow.”

  • akamaireader
    January 17, 2012 at 2:03 pm

    i had to laugh when you mentioned she kissed you. growing up i was known as the kissing queen. i used to chase boys down and give them a peck on the cheek. i was a terror!

  • Hermit
    January 18, 2012 at 6:53 am

    Once, when I was in my early teens, I visited with my grandfather and his 92 year old friend. His friend’s advice to me was “Alway make friends…. when you get to my age the keep dying off.”