A Small Piece of Advice

In no way is this a current reflection of my situation at the moment, but, I wanted to share a piece of advice with you that came from someone very close to me a long time ago. Today, for some reason, this just popped up in my head and I knew that I had to write it down here. I actually have two separate stories for you.

You have to hold people you love with an open hand, so that one day they can fly away, and in time, they will come back and eventually be there in some way or another. The heart is a great thing, that breaks and molds itself back together…and no matter how bad the pain or how warm it is, it always remembers those who you love.

This is one of the best pieces of advice I have received and I just wanted to share that with you today. Often of times we try to hold onto events or people because we think our lives were better off back then. There is a common phrase that says “everything happens for a reason.” This phrase is true, and in my own life, I have added a bit of an explanation. Everything happens for a reason because it was the most perfect thing that could have happened to you at that time in your life.

About a year and a half ago, I sat down to dinner with some of my grandparents best friends, and my grandmothers best friend told me a story about my grandmother when my grandfather moved to California. My grandmother, mama, decided to stay on the east coast, and after months, packed up all her stuff and moved to California. She simply explained to everyone when they asked her why she did it, “You know its right when you can’t live without them.” I will keep my grandmothers advice close to my heart. I wanted to share this with everyone today because I know that there are people out there going through things and needing to make big decisions about life. Things are a little simpler than you think. Stay open, who knows, lightning could strike.


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  • Deborah
    January 9, 2012 at 7:59 am

    Thanks for this post! Needed to hear this today!

  • thinkerandoer
    January 9, 2012 at 8:07 am

    That is so right about holding people you love/like with an open hand, though sometimes it’s so hard to do that…
    And about “everything happens for a reason” I could not agree more. Up to this point , the thing which I consider as the worst in my life made me realize things which further helped me to towards my current goal. Although much time past I still hate that event of my life, but it also feeds my motivation…

  • Lois Roelofs
    January 9, 2012 at 9:37 am

    Thanks, Evan, for following my blog. I like the down-to-earth reminders in your blog. Seize the moment!

  • The Hook
    January 9, 2012 at 11:11 am

    Great post, my new friend!

  • Alex Autin
    January 9, 2012 at 11:29 am

    I hit ‘Like’ on this post, but that is a complete understatement…..I LOVE it!

    Thanks and I couldn’t agree more!

  • newheavenonearth
    January 9, 2012 at 1:41 pm

    Thanks for your beautiful message. A broken heart lets the light in. The new heart that is forged out of the pain is full of light and therefore stronger and more powerful, with an exponentially larger capacity to love.

  • incidentallearner
    January 10, 2012 at 5:04 pm

    OK..this brought tears to my eyes…so perfect…so perfectly presented and such a beautiful message…if you love something…open your hand and let it go and it will come back to you some day in some way….thank you Evan.

  • pathwriter
    January 12, 2012 at 7:06 am

    Good timing on this one, Evan. Thanks. 🙂

  • Daniela Carlton
    January 14, 2012 at 10:04 pm

    Hi Evan, I really enjoyed your blog .It’s very easy to allow ourselves to dwell on a negative situation. In life, we will experience several obstacles and it’s easy to lose focus. It’s important to not allow outside factors to replace our steps to success. People face barriers on a daily basis and it’s about overcoming them that make you who you are.
    Thank you for sharing!

  • mystorymyperspective
    January 15, 2012 at 10:22 am

    First I want to say thank you for writing and sharing! I believe I will revisit this day often, just for a little reminder about how even I at times will make life more complicated than necessary.