A.D.D. (Adventure Deficit Disorder)

Killing it. Those are the two words I want to say every single night before I go to bed. Did I kill it today? Oh man…you killed it.

So I found a couple of things that I really want to do this year. The main thing is that I am going to create a list of everything I am going to accomplish in 2012. Kind of like a bucket list I guess…but for one year. So I am going to post another page on the main page of my bucket list for 2012 and will go through periodically and cross off things I do. This just in general gets me excited because I am ready to combat all fears and obstacles. Half of my writing today will probably go to that page so check that puppy out.

I love Jay-Z’s song above about success because it relates to a lot of the ways I think about things. The line about tightening your belt before you beg for help. Absolutely dead on. In general, I like to see if I can figure something out before I ask for help. Its not that I don’t like asking for help, its just that I feel a great sense of satisfaction in solving a problem myself before having someone else solve it for me. Not ego…personal pride. Every single day I go to battle with the crust of my old self. Its like breaking out of a skin from the day before. Most are waiting till January 1st to shed that skin…but I honestly think you should start the day you decide to start. Decide is a pretty strong word because those decisions you make for yourself have to be solid and concrete. This has been one of the biggest lessons I have learned so far throughout my not so long life. When you say you will do something, you do it. Nothing more nothing less. If you commit your heart to someone, you give them your heart. If you promise to try harder as a friend and be there for them, then you do that. Its not so much about hurting the other person, while that truly does matter don’t get me wrong, it ends up that you really hurt yourself. For every promise you break to another person you hurt yourself even worse. Your integrity, your word at its core starts dissolving. The only thing you can do is start rebuilding.

Your integrity is not a finite resource. Your reputation and your integrity go hand in hand. One of the bets complements I think I could receive is that I am doing what I said I was going to do. I don’t really need much more because if I am doing what I committed to then I am doing great things (by the nature of the goals I am setting). I still ask if I am keeping my 3 promises pretty regularly. If I am not, I do something about it. But so far so good.

Suck Less to Success. Pretty brute but very true. You have all the resources in the world around you to do whatever it is that you want. If you want to learn how to save money, buy a book, go to a class, etc etc. If you want to learn mixed martial arts, you know where to go. The opportunities around us are endless. Never before in the history of mankind has there been this much information… but more importantly, this much access to the information. I fashion myself as a sponge. A big human sponge. I will listen to anything, read anything, try really about anything (except for bell peppers…its not the consistency…its just the…yeah). Anyways, I am always to try something that I haven’t been doing before. The thing is, you never know when something is really going to just click for you. You could find a hidden nugget in your search for improvement and it could turn it all around. Your not waiting for this to happen though, you are simply creating your own destiny. I am not going to go into all the the different religious interpretations of this…but what I believe in is that humans were given free will, and whatever is going on up there, is watching and waiting to see what each of us do with it each day. Boom. Evan’s religion. No I am not starting a movement or looking for sponsors. I am simply saying that we all have an amazing opportunity each day to do something great. Nuff’ Said.

So why did I title this post A.D.D. Well, A.D.D. for me stands for Adventure Deficit Disorder. Go out into the world, go on adventures and capture every single moment of it in your head. Do things you haven’t done before. Try things that you are not used to. All in all give it your best shot. For a lot of people this new year is a great opportunity to do that. Yes it will be scary, but the thing is you just have to keep trying. Eventually things are going to stick for you and you will transform naturally. I think that part of my writing in this blog each day is me telling myself its okay to venture into the unknown. I understand that my reality lives within the language I create. Well, for my blogs recently, my reality has been go out there and kill it. Give it your best shot…like really your best and take fear for a ride.

 

Set those goals

 

 

 

Evan Sanders

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  • BlurbMyEnthusiasm
    December 29, 2011 at 11:13 am

    Evan – by willing to be a better man, you have already accomplished what many will not. Keep sight of those around you, as their memories of you will be your legacy. Congratulations and all the best to you as tackle challenges and goals in the New Year. May 2012 be the best year ever!

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 26, 2013 at 12:22 pm

      Thank you for your kind words. And I completely agree with what you said about memories being your legacy…they better be good ones!


      If you’re a dreamer, go now…or you will regret it. Connect with me on Facebook http://on.fb.me/RC57QW and Twitter http://bit.ly/Z0zCq9 for daily motivation

  • The Edmonton Tourist
    December 29, 2011 at 11:17 am

    I have a list to do before I’m 50, but this year I’m trying new things. One a week. Letting of fear is hard. I have been trying to do just. I like your project, I’m following it now 🙂

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 26, 2013 at 12:22 pm

      Definitely try new things! Those things will make you grow! When you push yourself past your comfort zone things truly start to change!


      If you’re a dreamer, go now…or you will regret it. Connect with me on Facebook http://on.fb.me/RC57QW and Twitter http://bit.ly/Z0zCq9 for daily motivation

  • Tina
    December 29, 2011 at 11:35 am

    Thanks for following my blog. I really like what you’ve got going here and I plan to add you to my google reader so I can follow your posts and be motivated by your words. The little bit I’ve seen of your posts so far are just the type of encouraging and motivating words I like. I also clicked my way to “Motivating photos” and saw you have the quote “What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?” That quote has been my favorite since I first saw it about 4 years ago, it was just like on the picture but on a postcard in a small shop and I picked it up and have since had it on my cork board to look at and remind me to take leap, dare go out there and chase my dreams down.

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 26, 2013 at 12:21 pm

      I am so glad you found so many things you like on my blog! It is amazing how we are all connected in one way or another. Pumps me up that you are putting me in your reader as well. I hope that throughout time I have provided you with some great value.


      If you’re a dreamer, go now…or you will regret it. Connect with me on Facebook http://on.fb.me/RC57QW and Twitter http://bit.ly/Z0zCq9 for daily motivation

  • Rhett Kennedy
    December 29, 2011 at 11:41 am

    Whoo Hoo! You hit it right on the head! I am very glad I read this. I think sometimes…..if you’re not afraid just a little….if you’re not just a little queasy, a little unsure, not just a little excited about the prospect of failure, You are doing it wrong! Way to go, keep up the good work of building a better you!!!!

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 26, 2013 at 12:17 pm

      Haha that is absolutely right! Being a little bit afraid is great for you. It makes you try harder!


      If you’re a dreamer, go now…or you will regret it. Connect with me on Facebook http://on.fb.me/RC57QW and Twitter http://bit.ly/Z0zCq9 for daily motivation

  • passionfortruths
    December 29, 2011 at 6:50 pm

    Very powerful and positive post!

    Truly life is a path of self-mastery and I think you are progressing very well!

    Have a productive New Year!

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 26, 2013 at 12:16 pm

      Thank you! I will keep your advice in mind. It is a life path I agree. Can’t wait to see where it leads me.


      If you’re a dreamer, go now…or you will regret it. Connect with me on Facebook http://on.fb.me/RC57QW and Twitter http://bit.ly/Z0zCq9 for daily motivation

  • Kate
    December 29, 2011 at 8:03 pm

    Evan- Great post! “Suck Less to Success. Pretty brute but very true.” Sometimes, we need to stop sugarcoating it, and just get to work!

    Enjoy those adventures!

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 26, 2013 at 12:16 pm

      No sugarcoating! That is a disservice! haha, but yes, suck less to success. You got this go after those dreams!


      If you’re a dreamer, go now…or you will regret it. Connect with me on Facebook http://on.fb.me/RC57QW and Twitter http://bit.ly/Z0zCq9 for daily motivation

  • newheavenonearth
    December 29, 2011 at 8:08 pm

    I love your statement “it is okay to venture into the unknown”
    Yes! We are not what we once were, and we are not yet who we know we can be, we are in the middle, unknown zone!!!
    Here is to new adventures into the unknown!

    I love the better man project! Here is to the upliftment, encouragement and revelation of the true inner man!

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 26, 2013 at 12:15 pm

      Hats off to new adventures! Glad you love the project and my writing. That makes me so happy and warms me up inside. I hope to hear more from you!


      If you’re a dreamer, go now…or you will regret it. Connect with me on Facebook http://on.fb.me/RC57QW and Twitter http://bit.ly/Z0zCq9 for daily motivation

  • Abhijeet Bhowmick (Abhy)
    December 30, 2011 at 8:53 am

    Just Grt … !!! Awesome. Everyone should discover new things,explore new opportunities. No matter they fail, but these failures will help them to conquer the battle of life, because life is just a job, work on it & get experience which will make you to excel in your career front.

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 26, 2013 at 12:14 pm

      Absolutely right. We have to push ourselves past our comfort zones in order to grow. Experience is what you gain from succeeding and failing from worthy pursuits. Hope all is well.


      If you’re a dreamer, go now…or you will regret it. Connect with me on Facebook http://on.fb.me/RC57QW and Twitter http://bit.ly/Z0zCq9 for daily motivation

  • Sean C
    December 30, 2011 at 10:59 am

    I like this. It seems to me like you are following the shadow of God’s “you”, and that will eventually bring you to the YOU that God made you to be. Very good.

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 26, 2013 at 12:14 pm

      Fantastic comment. And I think you are right on. Life has an interesting way of making you grow into what you should be.


      If you’re a dreamer, go now…or you will regret it. Connect with me on Facebook http://on.fb.me/RC57QW and Twitter http://bit.ly/Z0zCq9 for daily motivation

  • hermitsdoor
    December 30, 2011 at 6:48 pm

    Evan,

    New Year’s Day is an artifact of our calendar, which missed the Winter Solstice by a week and a half. You are absolutely right that we can make change any day, rather than getting stuck on that artifact.

    Keep your goals specific. Break big ambitions into manageable steps. I happened to hear in a discussion about making healthy lifestyle changes today, that a 1 degree change today may not seem like much in the next few weeks or months, but later in the year or years from now you will be at a completely different place than if you did not make that change in course.
    Oscar

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 26, 2013 at 12:13 pm

      Awesome comment Oscar. Thank you for the advice. I have been lucky enough to have been trained in goal setting and know that it is so important to break things down into manageable steps. Hope all is well with you!

  • Ahmed Modan
    January 4, 2012 at 12:36 pm

    You have some great stuff here! Thanks for the follow! I’ve definitely added you into my feed reader as a daily read. Looking forward to more posts!

    • thebettermanprojects
      August 26, 2013 at 12:12 pm

      Awesome! I am so glad that I made it in there. Hope to hear more from you throughout the years!


      If you’re a dreamer, go now…or you will regret it. Connect with me on Facebook http://on.fb.me/RC57QW and Twitter http://bit.ly/Z0zCq9 for daily motivation