“Your friend is the man who knows all about you and still likes you.” – Elbert Hubbard
“Adversity is the only balance to weigh friends.” – Plutarch
“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”
This is a letter to you, for you have done things for me that I would never be able to fully pay you back for. But paying you back isn’t what this is about. Its just about being there for each other no matter what. When things fall apart, we are always there, 24/7 365. No excuses. No exceptions. When things are great, when your getting married, we’re there giving that hilarious best man speech about the crazy things we have done in our lives together. This journey, one without love, and two without friends, would be meaningless. And just so you know, I appreciate everything you have done for me 🙂
To my Friends:
Friendship, to me, is love at its core. I have never been the type of person to have a group of 20 friends and be pretty good friends with all of them. I have hand picked the best friends out of anyone I know. I go straight for the diamonds in the rough. So if we did a tree of what my friends look like, you would probably view the funniest and most awkward looking tree ever. I have friends all over the place, from the most random places. But the difference for me is that these friends, the diamonds in the rough, are the toughest, most loving, caring people I have ever known. Sure some friends have come and gone, but those who have stuck with me throughout the years…we have something that is completely unbreakable…just like a diamond. There is nothing that my friends don’t know about me. I have told them everything. I am a firm believer that complete honesty about who you are, no matter how much the vulnerability scares you, is the only way to be true friends with anyone. In turn, they will tell you the things that scare them the most, the things they have done in the past, and what they are thinking now. You like people more when you know everything about them. If you don’t know their secrets, you can’t see how great of a person they really are. Sometimes diamonds have dirt all over them…and just need some polishing off.
I sit down almost every week with Greg out on his deck late at night, grab something hard to drink, and really spill it all out. Me and him, were pretty much of the same breed, so its pretty easy to understand where we are coming from with the things we say and feel. I am not sure of how many guys do that. Its like a support group, but with only two people. “Hi…my name is Evan….and I am dealing with ________.” And no matter how ridiculous it sounds, its something that I look forward to all week. I don’t think I could have recovered as fast as I could with some things if I didn’t have him to talk to. Its funny, sometimes I hear the same advice I gave him a year ago spit right back at me. Sometimes its hard to take your own advice you know? But no matter what, Greg and I help each other out. Impromptu trips to Tahoe, late night conversations with him coming by my room window, and deep talks over drinks…its just amazing. I never thought me and him would be as good as friends as we have become, but we did. Now, there’s nothing stopping us.
Devin and I have been best friends ever since 7th grade. Imagine this: Somehow we just started talking before a Pony baseball game and after a long game of me pitching vs. him hitting, I ended up picking him off at first base, and as the story goes (which he will argue every single time that he was safe when he was really out by 10 feet) we have been best friends ever since. We have done some stupid things together. Made fireworks that lit up the sky, made some that lit us up, power drinking, belly flop contests in the pool (one of the stupidest things I have ever done), high stakes ping pong games (last one he ended up having to shave his whole body) and the list goes on and on. But what I will always remember most are the times we sat by the outdoor fire, playing guitar and singing random songs, the times we went on hikes in the mountains, fishing, the countless hours playing catch on baseball fields, the holidays spent together, the dares to jump in our unheated pool in the middle of December, the trips to get food, the stories told about college life, the awkward conversations, the injuries both physical and in our relationships, and the times we have rolled on the ground laughing. That best man speech I was talking about…well, lets just say that each of us are completely terrified of what the other person is going to say. While its going to be hilarious, it is also going to be completely representative of our relationship. I think we go past best friends…we are just brothers. A long time ago, I wrote that there are a handful of people that I would go to battle with if they asked me to. Devin, you are one of those people I would put the armor on for no matter what the circumstance.
Russell. There is too much to say. Despite your flamingly well, you know moments…you make me laugh every single day. Whether it is you and me wrestling in the common room, my hiding in your closet to scare the living hell out of you, or taking car trips to go somewhere, we have such a fun time… its amazing. I’ve only been mad at you once, and that’s when you decided to throw a cream filled pastry at my new shirt, but couldn’t stay mad long because your such a dork. And you were so sorry haha. But Russ, you are on of the few that know everything about me. Its crazy to think that over 7 months me and you have covered more ground and become better friends than anyone can in years. Besides my dad, your the only other guy who I have cried on. Its pretty tough for me to do that. You were there from day 1. But, no matter how over my head I was, I just let go with you. And I always mean it when I say it…I love you buddy. No matter how many pastries you throw at me, how many times you spill orange juice on my suit, you still make me laugh. This summer, living together and my 2 other roommates is going to be one of the most fun things ever. I can’t even comprehend how much fun we are going to have. The road trips to random places, the traveling, the lifting, the working…its just going to be the best summer ever. Like I said before, there is too much to say, but I consider you family.
Audrey. God only knows how we got here from high school. But all I know is that every moment spending with you is a gift. You are the definition of “live, laugh, love.” Its crazy how much alike we are. Whether its your raptor sounds, you giving me a build-a-bear decked out in Giants gear, or taking random drives in the summer in the jag, you also are one of those people that make me laugh. You know me so well…and know how to cheer me up no matter what. I know sometimes you can’t see it, and life gets hard, but to everyone else, you are this light that everyone looks to. You inspire people to be happier, to care more, and to love their hearts out. I have learned so much from you. Every day you surprise me with how much you have grown. One day, you will make one of the best moms ever. I can’t wait to see that. Just like everyone else, theres just too much to say. But, if I had to whittle it down to one thing, well, it would just be a ….. smile 🙂
Caitlin. Our lives our running their paths side by side just in different places. Its so funny to hear everything that we go through, because it is literally the same. You have been one of my best friends since 3rd grade. We will be friends forever. Calling you every week is a major highlight. I don’t know to many people that have what we have. No matter what, I am there for you and I know you are the same with me. I can’t wait to see where you end up in the future.
Hannah. We have become such good friends over the past year since everything happened. Its funny, you are right, there are just some people that you can instantly trust and you are one of them. There’s no filter in our conversations, and over the past year, we have become better friends than we had in years. No matter what, we have each others back and are there to talk and have wine nights when things get pretty sport in life. I love spending time with you and laughing our heads off at the funny things that happen. Its just fantastic.
Goose. I don’t know if your reading this, but if you are, I will never forget everything you did for me last year. I know things are a bit different right now, but the great thing about life is that things have a way of working themselves out. You picked me up and put me on your back when I was at my worst. You carried me for days, weeks, and months. You put life back into me. You loved me to death. You are one of the most beautiful people I know.
Alex. If there was anyone who would understand my insatiable need for quotes, it would be you. You are just so content with life and happy. Its amazing. Your smile could melt chocolate. Everyone can see that and its funny that even though your quiet, people flock to you because you have this amazing energy. I can’t wait to see how good of friends we become.
My friends at lululemon. To put it simply, the differences of me now and from 7 months ago are astonishing. You all have inspired me to set my goals, become better every day, and really make my mark on the world. To those that have put their wings around me and teach me everything that I now know, thank you. To those who have laughed at me and with me, I enjoy every single day that I walk through our doors. No matter how long I stay with the company, you, all of you, are my family and seeing your faces just makes me happier than anything.
My mentors. Thank you for everything. You have guided me, helped me shape my life, and become the person I am today. More than anything though, you always told me that I can, and that nothing is impossible.
Iron Broncos. You guys inspire me every day to keep kicking my ass. The amount of hard work you put in is amazing and you make this club happen. You fulfill the exact reasons of why I started the club in the first place. To help people see their dreams.
All my other friends, and there are just too many to list. We are friends for a reason. And who knows, maybe we will become amazing friends one day. I just can’t describe to you how much you mean to me and how much I value your time. I literally could write pages and pages about each one of you. Thank you for everything you have ever done for me.
Theres no way to end this post except this. Hold onto the people you love, and show them you love them. With them you are everything, without them, you are nothing.